A few tips on Jealousy Fu
I get letters pretty much daily these days with people who have questions pertaining to alternative or spiritual matters. Some are very silly or casual in nature, but others strike a chord as raising an excellent topic.
This is one of them, along with my response and then their reply to my repsonse. It's a nice little bit about jealousy.
I invite any of you to add your thoughts on this topic. This blog is increasingly serving as a place for people to read information about issues pertaining to relationships, spirituality, eroticism and the connections between them. Thank you for reading and for participating by adding your thoughts as comments.
~Namaste~
****** wrote:
> Captian, I thought you would be a good person to
> ask. What you show is usually consistantly
> positive. I imagine your experience may not
> always be so but hey, you're human right so
> thats the way it goes.
> Well anyway. I've been having trouble lately
> with the jealousy thing. I personally don't
> think I have any particular reason to be
> jealous. It's not like the person that my man is
> seeing is dissing me or anything like that. I
> guess my man doesn't connect that way with too
> many and so I have less experience dealing. I
> get afraid and its like my emotions have been
> hijacked. I don't really know how to rework it.
> I imagine I'll find a way someday but for now I
> thought a little advice might help.
> It's really quite ironic as I've always been the
> slut in this relationship. Love him deeply yes
> but tween the two of us I connect with more
> people. I always think he doesn't have anything
> to worry about (though sometimes he does worry)
> and here I am blindsided by these fears and
> jealousy. It's bloody complex, I could take a
> lot of time telling you all the thoughts that go
> through my mind. I feel confused.
> Bugs me when I don't live up to my ideals.
> Bottom line is that I don't want to feel this
> way but I'm wary of just shutting down my
> emotion. It feels dangerous to do that. And I
> don't wanta ruin my man's chance at having good
> relationships by my falling apart or my fears.
> I feel sorta stuck.
> If you have any advice, things to do or think
> that might help I'd be glad to hear it.
> ~sigh~
> I'm not proud of myself today.
> Thanks Captain.
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Hi *******
Here are my thoughts:
First off- Jealousy happens to pretty much eveyone...even very evolved beings end up feeling jealousy ...they just have tools to transmute the energy...
Here are a few tools I have to offer you:
1- Practice a Compersion Meditation- visualize your partner having a sensual experience with their other lover as if you were watching porn...focus on how beautiful it is to see your partner having pleasure...if you can get aroused by this all the better... Compersion is the opposite of jealousy... it;s compassionate perversion (that's what I call it) ...that means you feel HAPPY and EXCITED that your partner has extra pleasure...
Even if at first you have to fake it a little..keep at it...practice helps
2- Focus on drawing energy from your heart to your sex chakras...When you feel jealous, take a moment to visualize sweet honey love juice dripping from your heart to your yoni... love yourself... be whole without anyone
3- remember that no matter if it is a bolt of lightening or another
lover...your partner can be taken from you at any time..that is part of
the rules and deal of life... the deeper you grok this and let go of
ownership on a big picture level the less jealousy will have fuel to
work with
4- watch the movie WHAT THE BLEEP DO WE KNOW--- make sure you focus
on the part of the film pertaining to the hypothalamus - it will give
you new insight about emotion...
Here is my blog topic on this movie and what it has to say about emotions in general:
I suggest you go read this now
people.tribe.net/captainerotica/blog
Ok so now you know that jealousy is just a chemical reaction spreading jealousy peptides throughout your body...so when you feel jealousy you can emotionally masturbate yourself into a more positive state
5- every now and then just let it be felt FULLY- RAGE- get pissed-
EXPRESS your jealousy--- write- do art... get it OUT - get it FELT---
6- Feel your Jealousy take on physical form in your body. It can be
a golden light that you feel in your gut. Then start spinning it good
and fast. Once it has some momentum you can feel it rise up to your
shoulder and then FLING It out your arm - launching it off your hand
out into the ether. (careful where you are pointing however, Jealousy
can travel from 1 - 900 feet depending upon how much of it there is, so
make sure nobody is in your path of release) ..
If you look at the photo at the top of this blog you will see what
this Jealousy Fu looks like on the astral plane when I do it. You might
have different colors involved but the physcial motion looks like
that...
I think a combination of those 6 things are pretty guaranteed to help you transmute the lead of your jealousy into the gold of compersion
let me know if you have any futher questions
also do you mind if I post your message *anonymously* to one of my tribes or my blog?
good luck!
big hug
Captain Erotica
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Thank you Captain.
Since I wrote you I have been doing better. Not perfect but better.
You have offered me more tools. Thank you so much.
I have seen the movie you mention. I will further look into your links and info. Thank you again.
I know that mountains and snow and sudden death could take my love.
Though I might fear those things sometimes, I don't feel jealous of
them. Perhaps its that I have met some rather manipulative people in
the past who just didn't get how to pull this off honorably. Though my
man never hangs with those ones for long. It's a turn off. ;)
Presently I'm really needing some food and caffine so my thoughts
aren't quite in order. But thank you Captain. More tools are good! I
appreciate the gifts.
Yes you can repost my letter.
Thank you for your help.
Funny, you telling me that even very evolved beings sometimes feel jealousy helps. Helps me not feel like such a big poop. Lol.
Hugs and gratitude Captain.
Thank you!
~*********** 
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