CaptainErotica

The Erotic Ice Bar

I get asked frequently: What IS the Erotic Ice Bar? or How Does the Erotic Ice Bar work.

The Erotic Ice Bar works as such:

Physically it is set up on a massage table or one about that size...The ice block is about 100lbs which means it is about 3ft long by 1 ft high by 1.5 ft wide... the block size varies each time I do it but it is roughly about that size...

The Bar offers a "Naughty" side and a "Nice" Side. The bar offers several choices of beverage. The ice block is illuminated with rope light and has a "luge" or trough carved in the top. 

The Naughty Side of the toys selction is an array of Sadomaochistic Implments including paddles, crops, and a wide range of flogger styles. Each person has a different interpretation of what hurts and what feels good. We work with each guest to make sure they are getting what they want in a way that is positive and healthy for them.

The Nice Side of the toys is a selection of implents of sensual stimulations. Here you will find fur and soft fabric, feathers, and a suede flogger that is light as air. Astrology or Tarot Card readings are also available for those who want to use the ice luge without having a sensual experience. Astrology and Tarot readings are also available in tandem with toys from either side of the bar.

All touching done on the nice or naughty side is non-gential. Breasts may be touched or a toy used on them upon request of the guest.  Guests may invite anyone in the crowd to touch them as they wish during their shot.

The toys are set up on the table on either side of the ice OR ideally suspended from chains that I bring so people can see/touch them more easily.

A person chooses their beverage. Then they pick something from the Naughty or Nice side *(or both if they want... or if they just want a shot then they do not have to have the toys used on them.)

Then after all is set, the person bends at the waist to place their lips on the ice. While their beverage is poured in small sips, the toy(s) of their choice are used on them by myself or my helper(s). The beverage is poured in a slow trickle to extend the experience with the toys...

I always have at least one switch female with me so as to A- have her be a demonstrator for the crowd and B- to cater to those who wish to be topped by a woman...

It it highly important to stress the deeply consensual nature of this experience. It is ALL about the guest. Both myself and those who help me are people who know how to give a flogging/paddling/etc./etc. in a selfless manner that give the guest a sense of comfort and safety. We never ever hit people too hard, if anything we tend to err on the side of caution and get asked to do it harder.

Also, if the guest wishes someone else in the crowd, or someone who is their partner/lover/playmate to use the toy on them, that is certainly encouraged. I only take a moment to check in with the person to make sure they have experience with the toys in question. If they do not, I take a moment and briefly teach them how.

We also, upon request, will use the toys on people without them taking a drink.. this is done on a case by case basis depending upon how much of a line there is at any given time.

The Erotic Ice Bar has given hundreds of people their first ever floggings. Invented by me for the Critical Tits Women's Party at burning man and developed over the last four years, the EIB is a fun intro to SM arts experience. It also provides a nice visual stimulation for voyeurs.

I usally charge between 200-500 per gig for the erotic ice bar. Many times I will donate my time and energy and ask only for reimbursment of up to 100 for the ice and alcohol.

Let me know if you seek further clarification.
pleasurecove@sbcglobal.net

Here is a link to some further photos:
( But you have to promise you are at least 18 to look at them please! )

asecretplace.tribe.net/photos

Namaste

UTTERLY ENTHUSED with zero expectations

Once upon a time there was some one named UTTERLY ENTHUSED. UTTERLY ENTHUSED was SO enthusiastic that his name was spelled in CAPITAL LETTERS.

UT as his friends called him was so easily able to zip zig zap and zag all over the place. He made it seem effortless to do a ton of different things all AT THE SAME TIME.

However, over time, UT found that the more stuff he enthusiastically took on, the more that he was spending time with a dude named Mr. Stress. Mr. Stress was a sort of mean guy that always seemed to hang around whenever UT was doing a ton of different things AT THE SAME TIME. Thus, no matter how cool all the things UT was so enthusiastic about, Mr. Stress would make sure that UTTERLY ENTHUSED didn't end up feelin so good.

Finn ally, UT ran away from MR.STRESS and became Utterly Enthused, he hit the road and began spelling his name with lowercase letters for a start.

He ran and ran in his very enthusiastic way of running and covered a whole lotta ground. Finally he realized he was running uphill, but he kept running. The land got steeper and steeper til he found he was running on narrow ridge tops with long large drops all around him.

Undeterred UT kept running. The air was nice up here and there was not much else to do but run, which he was still doing in an enthusiastic manner. HOWEVER, as he reached the top of a very high mountain at the end of a range, he looked around and realized that there was NO MR. STRESS here!!!

"WOW" UT thought "What a fucking trip!"

He looked over the edge of the cliff and saw a zip-line that zizzled off into the fog in the valley below. There was a sign next to it that said..
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he noticed that in very small letters at the bottom of the sign it said ...but since you are probably too chickenshit to use the zip-line of doom, I bet you will just go back to the way you came...

"WOAH" thought UT , reaching out for the handle of the zip-line "I am not going back to the way I came!" He let out a Hooooodlllleeeeehooooooooooooooooooo as he undid the brake on the zip line and then HE zizzled off into the fog.

The fog was deep and shrouded as fog is fond of being. It licked his face clean of all the remnants of stress, like a large, vaporous, friendly dog. He opened his mouth wide and gulped down great droughts of pure clean enthusiasm which filled him up to his core.

Then the line started to level off and then head up hill. His zizzering slowed to a zazz as he began to climb up the line with the momentum from his journey down. Soon he slowed to a zeuss and at last heard a small "CLICK" as the zip-line released, dropping him into the void below.

While it would be fun to say he bravely plummeted into the thousand foot drop at this juncture of our tale, what really happened was two things:
1-he peed his sarong
2-he hit the water after only about 80 feet or so, still a prodigious drop but not too much more than enough to send his peed on sarong up around his face which just added to the whole sense of loss of self that the zipzizzerzazzzeuss line was designed for

A big net picked Utterly Enthused out of the water.

As soon as he hit the air he let out a large WHOOP of exultation!

"THAT WAS KILLER!" echoed through the large stone roofless cavern he has been deposited in. He could see the thread of the ZZZZ-line above his head.

The net took him over to a cave where there was a fire.

Standing next to the fire was a wild looking woman. She had many colored hair and her eyes also seemed to change color somehow.

"WOW it actually WORKED!" she cried with glee as the net deposited UT onto the floor of the cave at her feet!

She took his hand and without another word led him over to a hole in the wall. She walked him into the hole which was a dark, dank, narrow, scratchy, unpolite, kick you in the shins kinda hole in a wall.

"What the?" UT stammered

"SHHHHHHHHHH" she replied pulling him deeper into the cave.

The walls were too narrow to move but somehow they moved forward into the earth together...The slime was on UT's skin and for once in his life he was NOT enthusiastic about what he was doing. He wanted to stop, to go backwards even, retreating into that which came before, a place he knew would be more comfortable. The warm firm pressure of the womans hand around his reassured him, drew him along. He felt feather light and discovered a warm, positive place inside him that dissolved his feelings of angst.

With a POP they were out and into the most amazing place UT had ever seen.. Every manner of crystal lined the cavern they had entered. Holes in the roof let in large beams of sun in various places and they lit up the crystals in a symphony of light.

She turned to him. Looked him right in his wide eyes and said
"zero expectations"

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Now they travel everywhere 
They monkey all around
No matter where they go together
Mr. Stress is not to be found...

It's Fun to help people have better lives!

                   

Feedback from an adoring member of my network:

I wanted to tell you that I am experiencing a LOT of deep healing in the area of relationships, and last night I dreamt that I met you as I was entering some sort of special party/event. You were at the door greeting people and helping them with information, etc. I then knew it was you, but never went back to say hi or tell you I knew you from tribe. So....I am doing it now!

I wanted to also say thank you for being who you are and how you are, because in reading your blogs and posts, you have helped me come to a peaceful place within regarding romance, love and sex.
Thank you again,

Giving Head Tip #1

           Tip 1: Don't let it all go to your head...

When you give head to someone...no matter their gender or yours... an important factor to consider is this:

Usually during head, the Focus or Attention of the giving person is on the mouth, tongue, lips, throat, and often, the hands.

Consider what is going on with the rest of your body and it's energy.

Ask yourself the following:
- How are you holding your posture and how does that impact your ability to excell at your headgiving?

- Are you including the energy of the rest of your body in the head you are giving? Ie Sure you are being present with your head and your mouth etc. but what is going on with your heart while giving oral sex?

I posit that you can,while giving head, reach down into your heart and get some yummy love energy, draw it up and let it flow through your tongue into the genitals of your partner/lover/playmate (PLP)

- How can you creatively include your body in your head? Does moving your torso have any effect on things? Most women know they can rub their breasts against someone during head,,, do most men know they can do it also? What other body parts might come into play while giving head

Also- It's important to keep your focus on the person(s) you are giving head to. It can be easy to just let your attention float off while you go through your practiced routine motions. Great head incorporates FOCUS~ENERGY~INTENTION.

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These are some reflections I offer up to you as part of your process of being a better lover...Remember, we can ALL learn to be better lovers and it is our DUTY to be in service of our PLP. So see if you can give some really fucking over the top amazing incredible head to someone sometime soon... It only helps make the world a better place...

Beachin It with Gkra

   

My Grandmother is 84 years old.
She is a Capricorn's Capricorn.
I call her Gkra (not to her face, just in my mind).
I love her very very much.

Today I had a rare treat and was able to take her to the south shore of Long Island, NY, which is one of her favorite places in the whole wide of the world. Jones Beach to be exact. The site of the a bunch of work done by the WPA back in the 1900's...

WPA History Snippet   

It was so powerful to take her down to the sand, watching her work through the painful arthritis of her spine. Standing on a small rise of sand we drank deep draughts of fresh sea air. She stood a little straighter and declared that she loved me to inrushing waves. It was a beautiful moment, the sky all puzzled up with cloud pieces, we stood there holding hands, 48 years apart in age, but linked together by the power of DNA, love and family.

84 years on this earth and still so impacted by such a simple thing as fresh ocean air.

It was a powerful reminder to me to be thankful for the absurd beauty in my life.

Driving home, explaining to her what it meant to be polyamorous (that was a fun one =), I was struck at how lucky we are to have those who come before us to give us perspective on who we are...